Black Dog

[curiousb]

I don't often do personal, 'real-life' posts. In fact, I'm not sure I've ever done one before. And to be honest, this probably won't be all that personal anyway.

It's just that I'm a very long way from home this week, and unable to talk to my very good friend, when I could actually do with having a jolly good vent at her and having her tell me, in her own blunt but caring way, to get a grip on myself!

You see, sometimes my head gets in a muddle. It gets worked up over something, going over and over the issue with no resolution; I guess this probably happens to everyone at some point. But it's doing it right now, and I really wish it wasn't, as it's most inconvenient and uncomfortable. It was inevitable really, given the circumstances, but stupidly I wasn't really prepared and I'm not dealing with it all that well.

Still, I'll be home in four days. Just four days and I can give my friend a ring and hopefully sort my head out. Until then, I'm afraid, dear Friends' list, it's just you, me and my cryptic, rambling nonsense.

Comments

[digitaldollies]

Really, life does this to us at times, and while we try our hardest to figure it our it never works out the way we want it. It will get better, trust in that. I'm here for you, and even if I'm not your dear friend (I have one of those btw the blunt but caring sort) I hope that will give something else to chew on.

[curiousb]

Thank you, jacci! I know I'm not alone, and I know it will get better, probably once I get home and have the chance to get it all off my chest, but at the moment - especially tonight - I'm not in a very good place unfortunately. I'll be OK though. :)

[peach_t]

I understand how you feel. Our problems might be different, but the current situation is very similar. As digitalldollies said, it will get better. At least I hope very much it will.
And we should be thankful for such friends, thankful that we have them. Even though they are not always present locally, they are always there for us, just as we are there for them.

[curiousb]

Ahh, I'm sorry you're feeling like I am at the moment - it's not nice, is it? I do hope your situation resolves itself soon!

I think and hope that things will get better for both of us - they usually do - but it's not very pleasant waiting for that day, that's all.

My friend is one in a million - I just hope I'm as good a friend to her as she has been to me.

[zerographic]

I'm jealous you have such a close friend. I never have learned the art of making deep friendships like that.

Just say to yourself What Would ________ Do? And then follow her advice as you already here it in your head. I know, I know. Easier said than done!

[curiousb]

I am very lucky indeed to have her - we've been friends for, oooh, 27 years! Blimey, that shows my age, doesn't it?! I think we were just fortunate enough to meet at the right time in our lives when we both needed a good friend, and although there was a patch of a few years when we weren't close, in recent years we seem to have grown even more together.

I don't have a huge number of close friends - just three really, including my husband - so I certainly couldn't say I've worked out the secret to making good friends. I think a lot of it is luck in meeting the right people, but perhaps it's also something to do with making the effort to be the best friend you can yourself.

Anyway, I love your advice, and ordinarily I think it would work well. But, in this particular situation, I'm not actually sure it would! You see, she's a very different person to me, and whilst her approach in this situation would probably work beautifully for her, I know that I'd just fall flat on my face! :D