Black Dog

[curiousb]

I don't often do personal, 'real-life' posts. In fact, I'm not sure I've ever done one before. And to be honest, this probably won't be all that personal anyway.

It's just that I'm a very long way from home this week, and unable to talk to my very good friend, when I could actually do with having a jolly good vent at her and having her tell me, in her own blunt but caring way, to get a grip on myself!

You see, sometimes my head gets in a muddle. It gets worked up over something, going over and over the issue with no resolution; I guess this probably happens to everyone at some point. But it's doing it right now, and I really wish it wasn't, as it's most inconvenient and uncomfortable. It was inevitable really, given the circumstances, but stupidly I wasn't really prepared and I'm not dealing with it all that well.

Still, I'll be home in four days. Just four days and I can give my friend a ring and hopefully sort my head out. Until then, I'm afraid, dear Friends' list, it's just you, me and my cryptic, rambling nonsense.

Comments

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I'm jealous you have such a close friend. I never have learned the art of making deep friendships like that.

Just say to yourself What Would ________ Do? And then follow her advice as you already here it in your head. I know, I know. Easier said than done!

[curiousb]

I am very lucky indeed to have her - we've been friends for, oooh, 27 years! Blimey, that shows my age, doesn't it?! I think we were just fortunate enough to meet at the right time in our lives when we both needed a good friend, and although there was a patch of a few years when we weren't close, in recent years we seem to have grown even more together.

I don't have a huge number of close friends - just three really, including my husband - so I certainly couldn't say I've worked out the secret to making good friends. I think a lot of it is luck in meeting the right people, but perhaps it's also something to do with making the effort to be the best friend you can yourself.

Anyway, I love your advice, and ordinarily I think it would work well. But, in this particular situation, I'm not actually sure it would! You see, she's a very different person to me, and whilst her approach in this situation would probably work beautifully for her, I know that I'd just fall flat on my face! :D